Mindset
Most
divorces can be quite simple, so long as the parties can maintain the correct
mindset. A big mistake many people make in their divorce is to get caught up in
emotions and act out of anger, revenge, guilt, etc.
Often
times, parties believe they can begin the divorce process with a simple, uncontested
case, where the parties can agree on all issues in the divorce. However, sometimes
when parties begin to disagree or argue over minor issues, they become distracted
by the emotions of 'winning' or 'beating' the other party. Making decisions
based on emotions can cause a divorce to be lengthy and expensive.
Resolution Focused Approach
Rather
than an aggressive, litigious approach, Meriwether & Tharp recommends a
resolution focused approach. The resolution focused approach allows the parties
and their lawyers to negotiate the issues which are most important to them, in
order to come to a mutually agreeable resolution. This approach is usually much
cheaper and quicker than a battle in court.
Making a Deal
Many
divorces, which were once cordial, can easily become contentious when the
parties get caught up in emotions. To resolve your marriage efficiently, you
and your attorney should focus on your interests (things you want or need),
rather than a certain position you have decided upon.
You
will also need to identify the needs, desires, concerns, and fears of your
spouse in order to work toward a resolution. You may have to concede on a
lesser issue to prevail on a more important issue, but by focusing on each
party's driving interests, the parties and their attorney's should be able to devise
a solution which would be acceptable for both parties.
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Written
by: Rebekah Ann James